my journey not rotting in bed after working 9-5

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WHAT I'VE LEARNED

i made a video talking about this before but i truly don’t believe i have the motivation to not rot in bed everyday, and i do, rot in bed about 3 times out of the week , ’m probably

lounging in the house scrolling on social media until it’s time to shower, shit and repeat. the motivation to do the things we want to do may never come and if it doesn’t, sitting waiting on something to change or spark within you is only wasting more time. and i just got tired of wasting time.

so no i don’t always have the motivation but i am resilience, i am strong and i hold a lot of strength within me and that’s what keeps me from going straight to bed after work. being exhausted after work is valid i’m never invalidating others emotions because i truly feel like i often can relate ov have related in the past to the same emotions. being exhausted after work is valid but are you 5 hours of rotting exhausted everyday? i feel like we often get used to the routine of telling ourselves “i can’t wait to go home and lay down” “i can’t wait to go home and rot” and i’m not saying don't do that but what helped me was doing it in moderation. lay in bed and relax for 30 mins but get the fuck up after. set a timer set and alarm and no matter what you’re feeling when that timer goes off get up! i got so comfortable in the routine of telling myself i can’t wait to be in a position to not be tired after work, i was wasting my own time being stuck on the idea that i couldn’t take control over my life in the current moment. what happens before and after you clock out is your life! take control of it.

learned how much time I've been wasting. i realized how everyday truly is a new day to change your reality. i realized how resilient i am an how much i want to see and accomplish out of the world. i have to push myself harder everyday , and i need to break the cycle.

TIPS THAT HAVE HELPED ME

pack clothes in your car, i feel like this is something everybody should be doing regardless. keep cozy clothes and clothes you feel confident in your car so you can change after work! going home immediately after work makes you not want to leave again, and work clothes are often not comfortable and or flattering so keep that mf on you! stay ready so you don’t have to get ready. 

instead of thinking about how you can’t wait to go home think about the things you can do when you get off while you’re still at work. stop saving things for the weekend. think about how your present self can help your future self, pack a lunch for the night before, clean your place, cleanse your body, make a vision board, make a list. 

find little things that you like doing that don't take up as much mental energy, go on a walk, go thrifting, try a new cafe, go buy some records or cds. go put yourself in spaces you enjoy.

dont wait until you have someone to do things with you, go alone if you have to. take yourself on a date go try out some new food, eat alone, go to the movies alone..

do things that make you feel good!! even if you dont have a lot of money to spend, even if you dont have as much energy, even if you have to get p and go to work again the next day. put yourself first, if being stuck in the cycle is draining you find little things that help you break the cycle.